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Understanding senior isolation and ways to prevent it. Photo by Vlad Chețan from Pexels

Understanding senior isolation and ways to prevent it. Photo by Vlad Chețan from Pexels

Understanding Senior Isolation and Ways to Prevent It

August 23, 2019 by Ashley Look in Caregiving

Hey Ya’ll,

I might be moving forward with a life-after-caregiving but that doesn’t mean there aren’t still millions of folks navigating what remains a difficult journey. Luckily I have a new guest blogger to introduce you to today. Christian Worstell is a health and lifestyle writer living in Raleigh, NC and he is here with us to shed some light on the pains of senior isolation. He is a seasoned writer and has been doing freelance work for over 15 years and I am so grateful for his deep dive into this topic. As someone that lived in relative isolation as the result of caring for my parents through their illnesses, I can attest to the concerns facing those living a lifestyle of seclusion.


Seniors might be entering their “golden years,” but many in the elderly population find this golden time diminished by an overwhelming sense of isolation that can put their health, well being, and longevity at risk. The effects of this isolation can be avoided or reversed, but first, you must be able to detect the symptoms your loved one may be facing. This article outlines some of the causes, risks, and signs of senior isolation as well as some ways to prevent it from occurring.

What Is “Senior Isolation?”

Senior isolation occurs when an elderly individual becomes distanced from his or her interpersonal networks or groups. This can take the form of isolation that is psychological or physical, and it can leave seniors feeling as if they have lost their place in the community. The number of seniors that experience such feelings is substantial. In fact, a recent study revealed that nearly a third of respondents between 50 and 80 years old reported often feeling isolated or alone. 

How Isolation Occurs

You might think that being a senior makes you more prone to social engagement, given the fact that many senior citizens have retired from full-time work and can take more time for activities with friends and families. Unfortunately, though, the reality is quite different. Senior citizens often face issues of reduced mobility as they age, which might limit their ability to get out and partake in the activities they once enjoyed. Their social circles also can begin to diminish; in addition to their friends succumbing to age, illness and death, many elderly adults also live at great distances from their extended families, which makes regular contact or social engagement more challenging. Some seniors have the advantage of a caregiver who might regularly attend to cooking or cleaning, but these caregivers are usually not equipped to be a full-time, live-in companion.

Risks of Isolation

The danger is that this isolation can reap a direct impact on a senior’s health. For example, the depression that can result from such isolation can contribute to an overall downturn in health, and the repercussions can be even more far-reaching. In fact, a recent study found that seniors who experienced isolation were more likely to experience longer periods of hospitalization and were also more likely to die sooner than those who did not report such feelings.

 Signs of Isolation

Signs that your loved one might be suffering from isolation include:

  • A sudden lack of interest in activities a senior once loved

  • The emergence of new habits such as smoking or excessive drinking

  • Sullen, hostile, or reclusive behavior

  • Drastic weight loss

 If you see such behaviors in your loved one, it is time that you explore some options to address their situation.

Prevention

Here is the good news: the impact of senior isolation can be easily reversed. You can help by simply engaging more with your loved one and encouraging them to do the things they love. Reversing or preventing the negative effects of isolation can be accomplished through a few simple steps:

 Determine the Factors

Consider the main factors contributing to your senior’s sense of isolation and then seek means to address each of these factors. For example, if a senior is struggling to find a new place in his community, help them find groups, clubs, or activities that they might enjoy.

Make Your Loved One Feel Valuable

Find tasks or responsibilities your loved one can take on that make them feel they are valued and important.

 Check-in

Perhaps the easiest of all, make a commitment to check in on your loved one frequently. This doesn’t have to mean a flight once a month across the country, but a standing phone call or note in the mail might provide your senior with the consistency and support to make them feel they are still vital to the larger world.

 Awareness is the Beginning

With the ever-growing number of Baby Boomers entering their senior years, being aware of the issue of senior isolation has never been more prevalent. Recognizing the signs, however, and taking steps to seek solutions to such feelings of isolation can help keep those in their golden years going strong for many more to come.


If I can add a personal note to this post it’s the question of quality of life. After watching the struggles my parents faced while attempting to remain independent and at home, I can’t help but wonder why there is so much resistance when it comes to assisted living communities. The financial restraints are of course an important consideration, but if you have an affordable option in your area I would encourage you to investigate the possibility. The opportunity to participate in a social environment cannot be understated. It’s good for the mind and good for the soul. We all need connection in our lives so if you or a loved one are living alone as the years are winding down, don’t be afraid to explore a more communal environment. You might be pleasantly surprised for a healthy social adventure that’s still ahead.

August 23, 2019 /Ashley Look
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Long-Term Care: Assessing Your Needs and Planning to Pay

Long-Term Care: Assessing Your Needs and Planning to Pay

Long-Term Care: Assessing Your Needs and Planning to Pay

May 24, 2019 by Ashley Look in Caregiving

Have you given consideration to your long-term care needs? Have you created a plan for how to pay for it? The cost of health insurance during our healthiest of years is already reaching harrowing rates. But what about those days (hopefully distant future) when we need a bit of extra help. If it’s expensive now, we can assume it will be even more costly then. Fortunately, Harry Cline, creator of NewCaregiver.org and author of the upcoming book, The A-Z Home Care Handbook: Health Management How-Tos for Senior Caregivers is here to help us with some of these questions. Read below for some suggestions on how you can start to think big pictures for what long-term care might look like for you or your loved ones.


While it isn’t pleasant to think about, there is a good chance you will need some type of long-term care in your senior years. Long-term care doesn’t necessarily mean you’ll be put in a nursing home. In fact, assisted living facilities and nursing homes are more expensive than in-home care. Long-term care simply means any sort of custodial care you’ll need for more than two months, whether that be admittance into an assisted living facility, adult day care, or an in-home health aide.

 Planning for Long-Term Care Needs

 To assess the likelihood of your needing long-term care in the future, take a look at your state of health. Does your family carry any hereditary illnesses or conditions that could show up down the line? Fortunately, there are now predictive genetic tests that you can take to catch some of these early. However, it’s important to know that carrying a condition like Alzheimer’s means you won’t be eligible for long-term insurance.

 Barring genetic issues and accidents, your health is largely in your own hands. If you don’t already lead a healthy lifestyle that promotes longevity, make a resolution to change as soon as possible. One of the best things you can do for your long-term health is exercise regularly. You only need 90 minutes of exercise a week to reduce blood pressure levels. Exercise 450 minutes a week, and you’ll significantly reduce your chances of premature death.

 As mentioned earlier, in-home care can be significantly cheaper than an assisted living facility or nursing home. If you are part of the 87 percent of adults who wish to age-in-place within their own home, it’s important to make sure the house facilitates that. Either find a home that has accessibility features in place or budget to make the renovations yourself. You’ll need to make modifications such as installing railings on both sides of stairs, removing any loose carpeting or rugs, and changing to automatic night lights.

 Paying for Long-Term Care Needs

 The further you are from retirement, the more options you have when it comes to saving for long-term care. An easy way to make sure you’ll have the funds no matter what is by investing in long-term care insurance. Long-term care insurance is expensive for a reason. Insurance companies know just like the rest of us that healthcare costs are rising steadily, as is the aging population. The chances of someone needing to actually use that insurance is pretty high, thus the high premium.

 Another option you have when it comes to saving for your long-term needs is a Health Savings Account (HSA). a Health Savings Account is a compound interest savings program that allows you to contribute a certain amount monthly without having to pay taxes. The funds can be used on a variety of healthcare costs, including custodial care. The best part about an HSA is you can access the funds tax-free for everything from acupuncture to X-rays. If you want to access the funds for any other purchases, you can do that as well! Just be prepared to pay taxes on it.

Long-term care isn’t necessarily as scary as it sounds, but it is serious business. The costs of healthcare are rising every day, so it’s something you need to plan for. When assessing your risk of needing long-term care, there are predictive genetic tests you can take. However, your best bet is reducing your chances of needing long-term care with a healthy lifestyle that includes exercise. If you prefer the idea of in-home care over being admitted to an assisted living facility, you have to make sure your house is ready with accessibility modifications. To pay for your long-term care needs, you can invest in insurance. However, this is an expensive option and ultimately useless if you end up not needing it. A Health Savings Account, on the other hand, allows you to save thousands a year and benefit from its tax-free status and compound interest to pay for long-term healthcare costs when the time comes.


Do any of you have experience with a Health Savings Account? It has only recently popped up on my radar but after struggling financially to afford life crippled under my parents health, let alone my own healthcare, I’m developing a budding interest in all things financial. Share your experience affording care in the comments. Many of us new to caregiving are clueless about this stuff so your input is extremely valued here.

May 24, 2019 /Ashley Look
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Almost 20 years after I moved out, this is what became of my childhood bedroom.

Almost 20 years after I moved out, this is what became of my childhood bedroom.

5 Tips For Downsizing Seniors

April 12, 2018 by Ashley Look in Caregiving

Hey there!

June and I are back with some tips for downsizing seniors.  This is actually much easier said than done and I can say this with certainty as I've now spent the last three years bringing a sense of order to the house I grew-up in. It was never the most organized of homes but as my parents health declined, the house grew further and further from any sense of security.  Their slide into dementia and Alzheimer's was increasingly complicated by the sheer presence of stuff.

Stuff I realize is often a sore subject.  Those that have it, struggle getting rid of it and those that inherit it feel burdened by the responsibility of managing it.  Seniors and youth often find themselves at odds.  Arguments about the value of antiques and heirlooms need to be measured alongside the expense of missed work, cost of storage, and the cost of transportation.  It's not that the youth of today value low quality items made in China or whatever the case may be, but rather the youth of today are in fact working and  providing for their own families and have purchased their own belongings as time and means allowed.  As any generation with the privileged to afford goods, they purchase items that speak to them with regard to their personal taste, budget, and space.  The assumption that items will be passed on and swapped out can belittle the hard work one took to establish their own household and I encourage seniors to pause before assuming younger generations will want their wares.  I would also encourage younger generations to ask questions and learn the history behind family belongings as many items are valuable because of their stories.

Part storage, part childhood... 

Part storage, part childhood... 

Needless to say, "stuff" is a complicated subject for families and June from Rise Up for Caregivers is here with a handful of tips to help give the process of downsizing some momentum. Read hers below and please share any you have discovered.  Decluttering and downsizing can be a massive undertaking so please don't hold back on suggestions!


For seniors, there are plenty of reasons to need to downsize - you’re moving to a smaller home, moving to an assisted living community, decluttering to make aging in place easier, or simply because you want to get rid of some things and streamline your life. Whatever the reason, it’s never a pleasant task to begin, however, the results are usually rewarding. Here are some tips to make it more manageable.

Put gadgets in boxes

This is a trick to figure out exactly what you use and what you don’t. If you have a month or two to spare (before a move, for instance), pack up like items into boxes. Put all of your kitchen gadgets, electronic gadgets, and other gadget-like items in their own boxes. Now, over the course of the next couple of months, take out the items as you need them. What’s left in the box after a few weeks are items you probably don’t need. Do note, this works best for “useable” items. There are plenty of things that you won’t “use” in the course of a month that you still want to keep like photos, jewelry, and other sentimental items.

Institute a “one in, one out” rule with collections

When it comes to books, DVDs, CDs, and other types of collections, we can amass more than we know what to do with by the time we are seniors. One way to make downsizing these collections easier is to institute a one in, one out rule. For every one you keep, throw one out (or donate it).

Precisely measure your new living space

This tip is crucial if you’re moving to a retirement community, where you’ll have significantly less living and storage space. Have a loved one go to your new space and measure everything - closets included. Make a quick sketch of the floor plan and then get to work planning where everything will go. Once you have a place for everything you truly need in your new retirement community space, it’ll be easier to part with the stuff that simply cannot fit.

Go digital

Downsizing is about getting rid of physical items to unburden yourself and create more space, but that doesn’t mean you have to get rid of memories. Use internet storage to your advantage. If you have a bunch of old photo albums or scrapbooks, think about scanning these images into a computer and uploading them to an online photo storage site (here are some of the best). If you have other keepsakes and mementos, take photos of them and get rid of the physical item. This will allow you to keep the memory, but ditch the bulky items. More on downsizing your photo collections here.

Take “maybe” out of your vocabulary

When deciding what to keep, what to throw away, and what to donate, you should make those decisions as you pack and organize. Ditch the “maybe” pile. If you allow yourself the option of not making a decision on an item, you’re much more likely to keep it later on. If you truly want to downsize, you have to make hard choices as you go.

Downsizing is always going to be stressful. For many, it can be downright emotional. Getting rid of possessions is never going to be easy, but it’s vital if you’re moving to a smaller living space or simply want to declutter your life to give yourself more independence. Start early, give yourself time to organize, make tough decisions as you go, and don’t be afraid to get rid of duplicate items. In the end, you may find that you feel better - or at least less burdened - after you rid yourself of all that physical baggage.

Stuff just hanging out in the dinning room. It wasn't just a matter of what to do with the stuff.  I had to to first assess what the stuff even was!  

Stuff just hanging out in the dinning room. It wasn't just a matter of what to do with the stuff.  I had to to first assess what the stuff even was!  


Ok, now its your turn!  Please comment below with thoughts and suggestions or any best practices you have on this topic.  I personally find it overwhelming  and as you can tell from the pictures above I have many thoughts on this subject.  So many in fact I found it hard to capture my thoughts and needed to pull June in to help us get the conversation going. Let's here your suggestions!  I'll add some of my own thoughts in the comments and we'll see where the topic goes.

April 12, 2018 /Ashley Look
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